Lessons in Death
My brother just died after a long battle with Cancer. Fucking Cancer.
Anyone that knew us knew we were polar opposites.
He was Republican – I am a Democrat
He had 4 kids – I have no biological kids
He was aligned to my Mom — I was aligned to my Dad
He watched horror movies — Me — NOPE!!
But we were still brother and sister and toward the end of his life we learned to put away our differences and found appreciation in common ground.
We even took a funny picture at my Dad’s funeral.
“Look Dad, your kids are getting along”
My mother took us all to Disney after my Dad died. It was probably one of the best weeks of my life. Jim and I had time to just hang out together and enjoy food and rides and the company of family.
Jon and I got married in May. My brother and my humor continued as you can see in the photo below.
My wedding May 27th, 2018.
When I knew his life was coming to an end, I started to text him. I realized there were so many things I didn’t know.
Here are a few out takes from our conversations —
His Favorite Bible Verse
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who calld you out of the darkness into his marvelous light 1 Peter 2:9
I asked him is favorite thing about each of his kids
Jackie – her humor
Jenny – her kindness
Jasmine – her humor
Colin – his thoughtfulness
The last text from him said “Thanks” in response from me texting him “Happy Birthday from the Bahamas”
Two days before he passed I did a Facebook Video call to tell him goodbye. (thank you Kris)
I’m sad I didn’t get to hold his hand or put my hand on his cheek in those final hours — but at least I got to say goodbye.
I know he is in a better place, with those we loved that passed before us.